Adoption: My Views
Here's where I talk about my views about
adoption.
Introduction
First, I think it's sad that so many parents put their children up for adoption. If over-population of state-run child boarding facilities is anyone's fault, it's irresponsible (or otherwise) parents who just can't do their job. Not always, true, but part of me fails to see why some parents (married or not) could not make sure they don't have children, or if they do, that they're in a relationship and home where it will be good.But whatever the reason, human or otherwise, they're in a situation where the child gets put up for adoption.
How should it work?
The real issue is adoption is for the children. They could use a better life than a state-ran life. The state can give food, clothing, and shelter, and maybe even education, but not love. So what the child needs is love. Then there are couples who need children to love. So basically both needs get met.Why a traditional family is best
First, only two opposite sexual genders may produce children. That is known. Psychology has already shown several times that this is best because it is natural for the children and so that they get to see (or should see) how men and women interact in harmony and love.Second, it should be logical. Only two opposite genders can produce children. Therefore it should be those parents that can (ability) have children that get to have them. If they can't produce their own, adoption is a very good option, and in my opinion is an excellent choice.
What has gone wrong
Gay and lesbian agenda groups have gone absolutely mad about this, but that's too bad. We should not give in to pressure just because they can cause a fuss. That's like giving in to a two year old child just because it screams: it's not always the best option. If my 2 year old son fusses because I won't let him touch a hot pan on the stove, I don't just give in because he throws a fit. Yet this is a lot like what is going on in our society, and it is grievous to me.First, gay and lesbian couples should not even be allowed to have "unions" or "marriages". I do not hate them, and I do not wish them harm, but I also do not wish harm on society itself. A lot of this could be some of the nice priveleges that they could get, like the way their taxes get filed.
Second, raising a child as a same-sex couple causes the child too many life issues as it grows up. How are they going to explain which mom or which dad is coming to get them from school? They're going to be different. It also causes development issues in the sense that they won't know how the "mom" or "dad" (whichever is lacking) is supposed to be, what roles he/she is supposed to fill, etc. When I was dating, I dated someone who was raised by a single father because the mother had divorced him. She had issues knowing how to relate and what sort of person she should be. She also had emotional baggage from her mother basically not wanting to even know who she is the majority of her life. This causes too much. If anything, I doubt the same sex couples are thinking of the child's needs: they're probably more concerned with their own needs.
Why the state shouldn't be allowed to think it owns the children
Also, with certain things I've seen recently on the news, it seems the state thinks it owns all children. Such is wrong. While the state might feel obligated to help out, and that's a noble desire, I don't think it's their job at all because that gives them too much power to influence what education the children get, etc. It could be used as a tool, similar to the extreme of what Hitler did, to engineer children to believe what you want them to.I'm not saying that the state is doing this. However, the main issue to me is that the state cannot give the children love. Sure, food, clothing, shelter, education, these are important, but love is more important.
I think it would be better if they were given to charity organizations that were loosely monitored by outside agencies. Churches would make a good environment, but I can understand how some people might think that this is a bad idea, in the sense that this also alters their perspective as they grow up.
Safeguards within adoption
I also think that there should be some changes to the system. Adoption should be permanent, and monitored by outside neutral agencies. The adopted children should have their name legally changed to that of the adopting parents so that there is no "other-name" problems. They should also legally be made to be equal to a natural born child in terms of inheritance. This would help ensure, I think, that the adopted children get treated like natural born children.
Conclusion
I don't think that same-sex couples should be allowed to adopt at all. I think that only married couples should be allowed, for the sake of the children. I also think that adoption should be legal, binding, and permanent. This is my opinion.